Wonder Mother

Aahh.. lama banget vakum dari nulis menulis nih, bahkan lupa klo diri sendiri punya blog. Hehe. Mudahan masih bisa terus kesentuh ini blog ya.. Kali ini aku ingin bahas tentang perilaku anak. Banyak sekali tingkah polah perkembangan hidup yang kami lalui selama 3 tahun ini. (Oya Cyril dah 3 th ya sekarang...) Kenapa 'kami' bukan 'Cyril' ? karena perkembangan Cyril sangat ber-impact terhadaku. Aku banyak sekali belajar berusaha beradaptasi, mencari formulasi (*halahh..) dalam menghadapi perilakunya. Perilakunya yang keras. Keras dalam keinginan. Keras dalam bertindak. Sedikit sedikit salah. Sedikit sedikit marah. Egosentris. Seringkali perilakunya ini yang membuatku juga keras terhadapnya karena ketidaksabaranku. Keras disini bukan fisik ya (getting physical with ur kids is NOT acceptable) keras disini is more to a yelling. Bentak, ancaman, paksaan, mata melotot, yeah things like that lah. Terutama ayahnya yang sering address him with high tone, which sometime...

Have you ever feeling blue after your baby born? Well I certainly have, and it is called Baby Blues Syndrome. That is like the deepest, lowest, darkest, rock bottom point of my life. Might sounds like Im exagerating, but thats the truth. It wasnt pleasant at all. I never thought in a million years that would experience this state. I was like... "it wont happen to me". Then after the baby was born, well...when I first saw him, I was in tears of happiness but the next 2-3 weeks, NIGHTMARE. Baby blues is pretty much like a mild state of depression. You see, having a baby can be exhilarating and exhausting. When I was pregnant I only thought of how exhilarating it would be, and never expected it would be such a huge challenge. After birth, the hormone levels drop and it affects everything especially moods. As for myself, I had to face the fact that I had no breastmilk in 3 days. Meaning my baby had no intake at all in 3 days. This worried me A LOT. I was a beginner so my mind...

Who doesnt have stretch mark after pregnancy?? Then you are super lucky, but I believe 90% of women who have kids have that. Whether its a lot or just a tiny bit of stretch marks (still look horrible thou). I do have stretch marks on certain part of my body, but thanked God its mild and just a little. Still hate it thou. What is stretch mark anyway? how does it happen? Well, stretchmark is that annoying and weird looking line appear on your skin. It really has that kinda signature mark, which is so ugly in my opinion. It can appear about everywhere of your body like on your tummy, breast, thigh, calf, butt, arm, everywhere. It happens when your body gain extreme weight. Like when you are pregnant, your body grow faster than your skin can keep up with. It causes the elastic fibers under the surface of the skin to break, resulting stretch marks. Old people been saying that if you are pregnant you must not scratch your itchy skin cause it will leave some lines there. Well hey, the tru...

Finally home! Oh home sweet home. Theres just no place like home, even if you re in a wonderful place, a place you dreamed to go, at the end of the day home is where you wanna be. So this was my 3rd time travelling with baby. The first one was when hes about 6 mos old and we went to Samarinda by car. The second was to Jogjakarta, and the third was to Puncak. Travelling with baby need lotsa preparation. Physically, mentally, and lotsa baby stuff. Physically here means that you are really fit and healthy to go on a trip WITH baby. Its so much different than travelling alone or without baby. Especially with an active baby, you have to catch up with your babys stamina. As for my baby who is very active and in crawling stage, he just wanna crawl wherever and whenever which obviously he cannot do that. So I gotta carry him around and all the time. I mean he sure is heavy, and carrying him up for a long time is a pain on my back. Literally. I do let him crawl in some place, but in a p...

People been saying that its easy to lose weight if you are breastfeeding. Is that even true? how quick is it? sounds pretty effortless. Well thats NOT true at all, at least in my experience. I mean it sure did help me lose weight but not quick enough. Losing weight after pregnancy is not an easy task. It sure needs lotsa efforts. You have to workout, limit your intake, deal with the temptation of everything. I dont know how in the world could people like Beyonce or Miranda Kerr got their body back, toned, and flat abs in an instant. I mean seriously.. in only 3 months?? that just blows me away. I know they must hired a personal trainer, personal dietitian or nutritionist, or whatever. Yeah, forget them. Be realistic. I gained 20 Kg when I was pregnant. Yep, THAT much. Then it dropped about 10 Kg after I gave birth (so relieved at that time). After that, the scale just seem like never drop, well just lil by lil. Almost 11 months after my childbirth and I still need to lose 3 kg to g...

Breastfeeding been a journey of life to me. Full of ups and downs, tears and happiness. I struggled a lot. Many people through it smoothly, while the other through some rough time with it, just like me. I been in a time when I got no breastmilk at all, when my baby couldnt have any intake for days, when I couldnt breastfeed my baby, when my baby couldnt even get the nipple and suck it right for almost a month. Still I determined to exclusively breastfeed my baby for 6 months. Yes, I finally through the first 6 months. No formula at all. Now Im planning on continue breastfeeding until he is 2 years old. We already know from the experts that breastmilk is the best milk ever. It provides so much nutrition for the baby. Some research even say that baby can actually stay and get enough nutrition from breastmilk only  without solid food for one whole year. But forget that, we, mothers definitely wanna give the best for our baby. So for me exclusive breastfeeding for 6 months is a mus...

Yep, that is exactly what I am right now. Its been months since I decided to quit my job. I was in my 3rd trimester, heavy but still active actually. Why I quit then? cuz I was planning on raising my baby on my own at least until he's 6 months old and then if I could find an asistant (as I like to call it) for my baby, for the house or whatever, then I could go back to work. But guess what? I had an asistant, we brought her all the way from west Java, and stayed for only like a month or two. The deal was for a full year thou. I was pissed. So I moved on... Now that my baby is 9 almost 10 months on January, I dont have an asistant yet. So I carry on staying home. I kinda enjoy what I do right now. Dont get me wrong, I looove..taking care of my kid, but out of work is kinda okay now. Yes of course I miss the routine and all socialization, but I feel like I'm gonna miss my baby so much more if Im away from him. But I believe that when the time is right there will be som...